A Long Painful Journey pt. 3: What's Love Got To Do With It?

As Tina Turner once said “What’s Love got to do with it?” Continuing with her troubled journey of losing her god mom and her hate towards her father. During 9th grade, she met this charming young man at that time she was almost 15 and he was 17. At that time she wanted to be loved again, find another safe haven, build trust again etc. While she was still unstable within herself, he made her feel loved, listened to her problems and comforted her when she was battling my mind. He made me feel like there was hope again. Sometimes when her father would call, he would try to encourage her to speak to him. She would later become an open book in his eyes. He knew everything about her from head to toe. She began to love him more than she even loved herself. She saw herself finding a safe haven among his words;either harsh or loving she drank his words like wine. She became blinded with her love for him, that she didn’t realize his character began to change. Those words that once was sweet and kind… would soon become bitter and cold. He didn’t care so much about me anymore; he only cared about one thing… my body. He knew she wanted to wait until marriage; but he began to become impatient. As for her being stubborn and strong willed like her father; she would refuse each time he made advances towards her. But their relationship would soon turn violent. There would be days when he was upset and release his anger on her. He would either twist her arm until she began to cry, push her or if the argument got bad he hit her. But she was desperate; she wanted his love, his companionship, his encouraging words etc. She always found an excuse to tolerate his abuse. She began to believe it was “her fault” or “ he is stressed, he still loves you ”. Her self- esteem already in shambles would vanish. It would soon become clear they were getting to their 1 year anniversary; that she began to realize something wasn’t right. She already knew the love was dying gradually, but she still believed it was strong and alive. But 2 months before their 1 year, she found he was cheating and had a baby on the way with a girl. They ended up breaking up and she was back to the state she had begun: angry, depressed, brokenhearted, frustrated and hurt. The last argument he said “No one will ever love you and you better know that!” Till this day those words are still fresh in her mind, she has tried to forget but it replays everytime. With her hatred towards many things; she learned to hate “love”, hate men and hate God even more. The bitterness had grown deeper and stronger; chains had been wrapped around her ankle and wrist. She would soon be a slave in the devil’s workplace. With this story I don’t want you to hate men or hate love. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 “ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs” In God’s word he shows us the real meaning of love and how to identify love. I pray God is going to bless you with a spouse that’ll love and cherish you all your life. As for me, God is still working on me. Don’t ride the wave of this generation which is being “cold hearted”. IT’S NOT!! If you begin now and pray over your future spouse and allow God to do the rest.If you have God in your relationship, you have nothing to fear.